Is dominance of the conversation and winning at any cost all thats needed in Christian Evangelism?

Sorry I am just wondering why there is so much hatred of Aethiests here and Agnostics too? Its devoid of basic respect decency dignity and human love? Go ahead make my day, btw fwiw I am happy being Christian with Jesus as the head of my church, he taught me to love one another as he has loved us, Bye this way all would know we were his disciples? Am I reading the same book are we on the same page even? Dunno better read it again I think I am missing something sorta what?